Monday, April 10, 2006

Quote Me!

Broadly speaking, the short words are the best, and the old words best of all.
Winston Churchill


As you have noticed, I always like to include a quote whenever I post. Sometimes I think that other people have said it better than I ever could.

Some of my favorite quotes are:

The greatest gift you and your partner can give your children is the example of an intimate, healthy, and loving relationship.
Barbara De Angelis

My parents had (and still have) probably the best example of a true marriage that I have ever seen. I only hope that I can begin to achieve the type of relationship that they have.

Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.
Albert Einstein

Somewhere along the way I think that American education and its test, test, test mentality has bled all the joy and wonder out of learning.

Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.
Mark Twain

Maybe that was true in Twain's day, but these days I wonder...

He who opens a school door, closes a prison.
Victor Hugo

I wish the American government would take this to heart and strive to spend as much money on educating its children as it does in housing its criminals!

If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.
J. R. R. Tolkien

I love Tolkien. There is a subtle wisdom in all that he wrote.

The age of your children is a key factor in how quickly you are served in a restaurant.
Erma Bombeck

My daughters have proven this theory time and time again!! Not only is age the key factor in how quickly you are served, but also where you are served!

And yes, I am only just beginning to learn the ins and outs of html, so forgive me!

Common Vision

Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.
Hugh Mckay


Life is definitely not perfect. And neither am I. However, I seem to be showing my imperfections more and more lately, and it is causing stress and strain on my relationships, particularly my primary one. If it is going to succeed, I need to dig a little deeper, and set aside my own selfish concerns for the good of the relationship.

However, I also believe that in order for any relationship to be successful, that those involved must have a common vision; a goal to work towards. This is a list of what I think I need to be successful and happy in a relationship.

To enjoy each other...emotionally, physically, mentally.

To be each other's best friend.

To trust and feel safe with each other.

To be emotionally and physically faithful.

To work well together as parents and partners of parents (stepparents?) and respect the decisions that we make regarding our children, while also welcoming aid and support from each other.

To share important decisions together.

To respect and value each other's careers.

To be financially secure.

To agree to disagree at times, but to settle our differences in a thoughtful, peaceful, and respectful way.

To communicate our feelings and emotions openly in a thoughtful, constructive way.

To show our love for each other daily.

To have daily private time together and alone.

To make time to nurture our relationship and to value it.

To be happy and healthy...physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.


These are the things that I am looking for in my primary relationship. I know that I cannot be happy if I am not at least trying to reach these goals in a mutual fashion. I also know if PC does not share these goals and we are too far off on what we want, then it just won't work...no matter how much we may want it or how hard we try. I hope we can succeed.

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Monday, April 03, 2006

Deja Vu

Songs are life in 80 words or less.
Neil Diamond

There is a station here in Boston, 92.9 W-BOS, which is one of several that I often listen to.
Today I was driving home from work and they played a song from a new band, Augustana. Curious name, but pretty good music. So I started to listen to the words a little more closely. The song is called "Boston" and these are the lyrics.

in the light of the sun, is there anyone? oh it has begun...
oh dear you look so lost, eyes are red and tears are shed,
this world you must've crossed...you said...

you don't know me, you don't even care,
you don't know me, you don't wear my chains...

essential yet appealed, carry all your thoughts across
an open field,
when flowers gaze at you...they're not the only ones who cry
when they see you
you said...

you don't know me, you don't even care,
you don't know me, you don't wear my chains...

she said I think I'll go to Boston...
I think I'll start a new life,
I think I'll start it over, where no one knows my name,
I'll get out of California, I'm tired of the weather,
I think I'll get a lover and fly em out to Spain...
I think I'll go to Boston,
I think that I'm just tired
I think I need a new town, to leave this all behind...
I think I need a sunrise, I'm tired of the sunset,
I hear it's nice in the Summer, some snow would be nice...
Boston...where no one knows my name...


In the words of another musician...

And isn't it ironic?
Don't you think?
A little too ironic?
Yeah I really do think